Years ago we were parenting two newly adopted children, both of whom had significant trauma-related needs. Our children each required a high level of support. We had just begun to learn about the impact of developmental trauma and had limited resources and access to support. We were overwhelmed and pretty much on our own. We lived in isolation… much as we all are living right now.
We learned how to do things differently and got our family through the roughest and most isolated days. We kept it simple, stayed connected with each other and tried our best to be kind. We found that when we could do that…we really did survive and thrive. We were not perfect. The kids had hard days and we had them too. We made repair, tried again, and moved forward. Our greatest lesson was learning that our kids do not need us to be perfect. They needed us to be gentle with ourselves and with them; and to worry less about DOING and more about BEING.