RegulationThe ability to experience and maintain stress within a person's window of tolerance. Generally referred to as being calm, focused or relaxed. This term is used by literally every scientific discipline.
“The way the mind organized its own functioning…”- Daniel J. Siegel
“The brain’s ability to sense and respond to the needs of the body. Specialized ‘thermostat’s’ that monitor and function within our internal and external worlds” – Bruce D. Perry
DysregulationThe experience of being outside of a person's window of tolerance. Generally referred to as being stressed out, or in a state of distress.
“posttraumatic stress is the result of a fundamental reorganization of the central nervous system based on having experienced an actual threat of annihilation, (or seeing someone else being annihilated), which reorganizes self experience (as helpless) and the interpretation of reality (the entire world is a dangerous place).” – Bessel A van der Kolk
The following are categories of regulating activities. First, we described the TYPE OF ACTIVITY, what it does for the brain and why it’s helpful. Then we have listed ideas to try at home.
Remember: the idea is not to pressure yourself or your children with doing all of these every day, but to sprinkle them in. Incorporate them in at your own pace, with the goal of doing SOME regulating activity every couple of hours as you move through your day.
The idea is to integrate a variety of Regulating Activities in dose responses (5-15 minute spurts) throughout the day.
These activities are great for everyone – even adults!
Three Guiding Truths
Early trauma physically changes the developing brain.
Kindness and compassionate responses soothe the nervous system.
Our idea of community needs to be re-defined, it needs to adapt, because compassionate relationships heal trauma.